How to Handle Current Conflict
- Recognize the problem that is causing you to lose your self-control.
- Identify your feelings (anger, fear, sadness, etc.).
- Decide what happened to make you feel that way.
- Journal the situation once you are at home, on the bus, or outside of class. DO NOT write notes in your class! Focus on your academics/instruction. (You may write a few words down in your notebook to assist you in your journal writing exercises later).
- Focus on positive outcomes. (What you can accomplish by ignoring minor behavior, making positive friendships, focusing on academics vs. drama).
- Strive for self-control. Stay cool. (Take a “time out,” count to ten, breathe deeply)
- Accept situations you cannot change and remember you cannot change other people! You can only change the way you respond to a situation!
- Inform the teacher about a problem (not a minor annoyance) as soon as it happens. Do not wait and write long notes to administration or other teachers.
- Remember you do not have to be friends with everyone, but you must be respectful to everyone. Do not break school rules or you will encounter consequences.
- Focus on YOU, not SOMEONE ELSE.
What NOT to Do…
- Say disrespectful, hurtful or inappropriate things to others
- Write notes during classroom instruction
- Cause disruption in the hallways, auditorium, cafeteria or classrooms because of conflict with others
- Engage in social relationships with peers who have caused you repeated problems in the past (in other words, don’t do the same thing over and over and expect different results)
- Threaten others with physical violence or engage in fights
- Contribute to behavior that disrupts the learning environment